Do you find it difficult to accept the comments directed at you by others? If your answer is yes, then know that criticism, if it is justified, is always constructive, and you can rely on it in order to advance. You just have to understand the notes that are directed at you well and distinguish between constructive criticism and destructive criticism.

Whenever we hear the word criticism, we immediately imagine a negative meaning, which seems to be classified in our minds as negative thoughts. Most of us tend to take criticism as an insult and discouragement, and are not able to accept it easily. Yes, criticism can make a person nervous or tense, or make him suddenly become defensive. And if you look around you, you will find many people who get angry and revolt quickly, if you direct remarks or criticisms of any kind, no matter how simple they are. How many high-ranking people are considered noble, humble, and respected, who suddenly turn into an angry volcano if someone criticizes or notes them. This makes us wonder: Why don't we generally accept criticism with open arms, gratitude, and even happiness? Why are we so sensitive to other people's criticism of us? Why do we allow criticism to affect us and our professional and personal relationships, and also affect the extent of our returns?

When we ask: (How can we face criticism?), this directly means that criticism is something hateful and negative and that it is a problem, and this is wrong, because criticism is in fact a beautiful thing, and a service that the other party provides us with criticism, and this we do not discover unless we carefully consider the advantages of criticism from a psychological point of view.

Therefore, we will focus on how we understand criticism, how we accept it, and what we do to see the real aspects of criticism and observations that people direct at us. We must not be negative from the beginning, but rather we must be realistic and deal with the issue realistically, only then can we understand the matter, accept criticism, and benefit from the benefits that we can reap from it.

Understand the notes directed to you

First, what is criticism? Criticism or criticism is simply transforming the thing and the ruler over it, evaluating it and putting it under observation, but criticism has taken many different meanings, to the extent that some have begun to understand it as something negative. However, criticism has more than one face, like anything in this world, we can look at it from the face we like. So why don't we get rid of the negative face and just look at the positive face?

This concept of negativity and positivity is what will help you to benefit from the criticism directed at you. We can also say that there are destructive criticisms and constructive criticisms, which one do you prefer? The first type motivates you, encourages you, and motivates you to improve yourself. As for the second type, it discourages you, breaks your spirits, and reduces your focus and returns. Therefore, we remind you that you need the first type, not the second, because the last thing you need is words from an irresponsible person who makes you angry, loses your determination and determination, and makes you feel inferior.

Tell yourself that no one is perfect

When someone criticizes you and puts you in front of your mistakes or shortcomings, tell yourself that all people make mistakes, and that successful people succeed because they draw lessons from their failures, and as the old saying goes: the strong are not those who never fall, but the strong are those who fall and then always rise. And remember that it is normal for every stage of a person’s life to witness many fluctuations, sometimes positive and sometimes negative. Therefore, you must prepare well for all these fluctuations, in order to remain strong at all stages.

Leave a distance between you and other people's words

When someone criticizes you or just remarks, the first thing you do is ask yourself some questions instead of issuing a negative reaction. Questions such as: Why did he say this to me? What happened that made him make this remark? Did you work enough on this project? Perhaps the person who criticized you just wanted to draw your attention to a mistake you made, so that you don't make the same mistake next time. For this, listen to those who criticize you and try to understand their criticisms, by asking your interlocutor, for example, to clarify what he means, and then you will judge whether the entire purpose of that criticism is or if it was a means to solve a problem.

Look for solutions

If someone scolds you for a behavior, all you have to do is gather your strength to prove to him that he is wrong, or that this is not the end and that you are able to correct your mistakes and move forward. For example, if someone accuses you of being lazy, prove to him how diligent you are and you can be relied upon, and if someone tells you (you are naive), work on being balanced and attached, and think carefully before you take any step in your life. On the other hand, if you see that the criticism leveled at you was superficial and unfounded, and it is directed only to harass you and shake your confidence in yourself, then do not waste your time in responding to it, and choose either to clarify the matter for those who criticize you or to ignore it completely, if you see that it does not deserve a response.